‘Will you be my Valentine…’- Do Muslims celebrate Valentine’s Day? What to do if someone asks you out, as a Muslim…


Do Muslims celebrate Valentine’s Day?


‘So will you, won’t you, would you be my Valentine’ he asks…

“Erm,…” she says…

sorry-but-no-pok860“Sorry” she utters, “but no… I hate to be a heartbreaker…but that’s just not how I roll.”

Feel sorry for the guy? Or the girl?

Perhaps you’ve been in the position of the one pursued…or the one rejected.

Either way, you have your opinions and experiences, but let’s try and understand things from each other’s perspectives.

If you’re wondering whether or not Muslims celebrate Valentine’s day, you’re in the right place. There’s not a great deal of positive press on Islam and Muslims, partly due to our own shortcomings, partly due to misrepresentations and misreporting in mainstream media. It’s high time to reveal the TRUTH. Please read this objectively and share it with your friends 🙂

 WHAT IS VALENTINE’S DAY?

In a nutshell, Valentine’s Day was a Roman, Pagan tradition, which was Christianized and associated with Saint Valentine who was killed for a cause he believed in, namely marriage in lieu of celibacy, as one legend suggests. Today, it has come to be known as the festival of “love” (whatever that means!), and has become heavily commercialised. It’s a day where “romantic love” or “lust” is glorified and advocated, as are casual relationships, pre-marital relationships and extra-marital affairs. It can be argued that it is a day where people indulge in their desires.

Do Muslims celebrate Valentine’s Day? 

Drawing from the above, Valentine’s Day is a festival unfound in the authentic Islamic texts. Particularly due to the nature of the festival, Valentine’s Day contradicts some of the main principles of Islam. Other world religions such as Christianity an Judaism denounce relationships outside of marriage, but many followers of these religions have adopted liberal and secular values instead.

On the contrary, followers of Islam understand that the primary purpose in life is to worship Allah (The One True God) alone, with sincerity and with an unrivalled love. Acts of worship in Islam are only acceptable if they are done solely for Allah, and in accordance to the ‘Sunnah’ or teachings of the final prophet Muhammad (upon him be peace).

In Islam, we have the concept of ‘Halal’ (permitted) and ‘Haram’ (forbidden), which are ultimately derived from the Islamic sources of legislation, namely The Qur’an and The Sunnah.These laws are still valid from the time they were revealed and thus, we don’t change certain principles as time goes on. Islam governs everything we do, from worship, to food laws, to dress code, to interactions with others and relationships.

Valentine’s day, as mentioned above, encourages fornication & adultery among other forbidden deviances regarding carnal desires. Fornication and adultery are among the major sins in Islam, since Islam teaches that people’s honour and lineages are to be protected. As Muslims we must maintain God-conciousness in our lives and avoid wronging or oppressing ourselves and others. We have to resist our long-term Enemy, the Satan, and fight his insinuations to worship our desires.

What relationships are allowed in Islam?

Islam recognises a man’s natural inclination to need a woman and vice versa, but there are legislated guidelines to adhere to in this respect. Essentially, the only permissible outlet to satisfy the natural desires in man, would be through the institution of marriage. Marriage is highly regarded in Islam, and many factors have to be considered before initialising this great contract. Islamic tradition advises people to choose their spouse for their children, that is, choose someone who would be a good father/mother for your future children (since children are a usual consequence of relationships).

Relationships in Islam, are ultimately formed to achieve the primary purpose, to worship Allah. Marriage entails rights and responsibilities, and as Muslims we don’t do the short term flings, it’s all about the long haul. We believe in accountability, that we will be questioned in the afterlife about what we have done, so we take these things seriously. A relationship is something you commit to for life, not for your own convenience until you find something ‘better’.

So please don’t be offended if a Muslim turns you down if you ever pop them the question, it’s likely the response is standard for everyone that comes their way seeking a casual relationship. Please try to understand and respect that, and you need not take it personally. Feel honoured that they had the courage to be genuine and honest.

What to do if someone asks you out, as a Muslim?

It’s simple, if someone asks you out on a date or whatever, as a Muslim, remember

T-R-U-T-H.

Taqwa of Allah, have God-conciousness and don’t be tempted.

Respectfully reject

foster Understanding

by Teaching them the basics of Islam with evidence,

and be Honest, just let them know what Islam’s stance is on the matter.

And Muslim men and women, ponder over these beautiful ayat in the Qur’an…

May Allah guide us all to the straight path, perfect our belief and worship of Him, allow us to follow the sunnah, and protect us from fornication, adultery, major sins and may Allah save us from the enemy Satan. Allah make us the true believers with the ten characteristics at the beginning of Surah Muminoon that cause us to inherit jannat al firdaus. Wasallallahu ala nabiyyina Muhammad, wa ‘alaa Aalihi wa saHbihi aj’maeen. Amin

Until next time, keep smiling 🙂

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SEERAH lesson 15 The Biography of Rasoolullah, Muhammad peace be upon him

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How To Wake Up for Fajr- Thurrock Muslims

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How To Wake Up for Fajr- Thurrock Muslims


Want to stop missing Fajr? Here’s some top tips to get you back on track at the crack of dawn.

  1. Have the intention that you want to worship Allah by fulfilling the obligatory Salah on time
  2. Make lots of istighfaar (seek Allah’s forgiveness) and dua for help from Allah
  3. Sleep EARLY
  4. Finish dinner early
  5. Set loads of annoying alarms from Fajr to 30 minutes before sunrise
  6. Get a buddy to help wake you..

 

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Halloween- Do Muslims Celebrate it?


Halloween- Do Muslims Celebrate it?


Halloween originated from Pagan festival called Samhain, which was celebrated by the Ancient Celts of Ireland, Wales and Scotland. The Christian festival of ‘All Hallow’s Eve’ occurred around the same time of Samhain, with elements of the latter festival mixing with the former. Halloween is largely a celebration for Pagan idolators, and satan-worshippers, witches and the like. It is associated with evil, devils, demons and dark, sinister acts. None of these are approved of in Islam. Even some Christians are distancing themselves from Halloween.

Today, Halloween is largely a commercialised festival, which means big business for the candy stores and confectioners who make grand sales on the days leading to it. Children, teenagers and even adults go around dressed in crazy costumes, scary and skimpy, from door to door begging for money, sweets, or to simply scare people. Others get drunk partying, or go around town pranking innocent people. In short, it’s a night of nuisance! (Imagine what the police and medics have to deal with…)

As Muslims, we direct our efforts to please Allah (The One True God) alone. This means having a good intention,  doing good, and keeping away from evil. Muslims  have a long standing enmity with the devil, Satan. Satan (may he be cursed) was disobedient to Allah. And Satan was an enemy to our father, Adam- The first man. Satan’s mission is to lead us to destruction and hellfire. As Muslims our ongoing battle with Satan means we must avoid his misleading paths to evil (may he be cursed). Satan calls to idol worship, to harming ourselves, to harming people, creating mischief, following impure desires, destroying society among many other vices.

Muslims fight the Satan away, by remembering Allah, The Creator of all. So as Muslims, we’d rather be good citizens by maintaining peace and tranquillity in the community. Sure we love to give gifts, and we love sharing food, but just not on a night of notoriety.

Peace.

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QUR’AN LESSON 17 & 18- TAJWEED TUESDAYS & THURSDAYS!


QUR’AN LESSONS- 17 & 18 TAJWEED TUESDAYS & THURSDAYS!


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Let us renew our intentions and learn Qur’an with proper Tajweed. Let’s be excellent for Allah!

It is the Month of Qur’an after all!

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Muharram 1439AH and Ashura fasting 10th Muharram on Saturday 30th September 2017- thurrockmuslims.wordpress.com

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In the Name of Allah.


MUHARRAM 1439AH


Dear readers, we entered the new Islamic year a couple of days ago, walhamdulillah.

We are now in the first month of Hijri year 1439, Muharram.

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Muharram is a month of great virtue. It is of the four sacred months out of twelve months in the Islamic calendar.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Verily, the number of months with Allaah is twelve months (in a year), so was it ordained by Allaah on the Day when He created the heavens and the earth; of them four are Sacred (i.e. the 1st, the 7th, the 11th and the 12th months of the Islamic calendar). That is the right religion, so wrong not yourselves therein”

[al-Tawbah 9:36]

 

Allah, The Almighty, has made it a sacred month of great virtue. May He allow us to abstain from sins, to turn to Him in repentance, and to run back to Him with good deeds, for verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds.

And Allah is The Most Generous. Oh Allah we ask for Your peace and blessings upon The final prophet Muhammad peace be upon him. Ameen ya Rabb al ‘aalameen.

It is encouraged to fast in Muharram, particularly the 10th (Ashoora’), and the preceding day with it (Tasooaa’). Let us take advantage of these beautiful autumn days, in sha Allah.

 

It was proven from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) that the best fasting after Ramadaan is fasting in the month of Muharram.

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The best fasting after Ramadaan is the month of Allaah Muharram, and the best prayer after the obligatory prayer is prayer at night.” Narrated by Muslim, 1163. 

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Regarding the significance of fasting on Ashoora’ :

The reason why the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) fasted on the day of ‘Ashoora’ and urged the people to do likewise is mentioned in the hadeeth narrated by al-Bukhaari (1865) from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him), who said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) came to Madeenah and saw the Jews fasting on the day of ‘Ashoora’. He said, “What is this?” They said, “This is a good day, this is the day when Allaah saved the Children of Israel from their enemy and Moosa fasted on this day.” He (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “We are closer to Moosa than you.” So he fasted on this day and told the people to fast. 

 

Fasting the day of ‘Ashoora’ does expiate (minor sins) for the past year, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Fasting the day of ‘Arafah I hope Allaah will expiate thereby for the year before it and the year after it, and fasting the day of ‘Ashoora’  I hope Allaah will expiate thereby for the year that came before it.” Narrated by Muslim, 1162.

 

‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: When the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) fasted on the day of ‘Ashoora and told the people to fast, they said, “O Messenger of Allaah, this is a day that is venerated by the Jews and Christians.” The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “Next year, if Allaah wills, we will fast on the ninth day.” But by the time the following year came, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) had passed away.

 Narrated by Muslim, 1916.

 

It is expected that 9th Muharram 1439 will coincide with Friday 29th September 2017  and Saturday 30th September 2017 will be the 10th, or Ashoora’. May Allah grant us sincerity and the ability to seize the opportunity this Ashoora’ by fasting to gain His reward, love and forgiveness, through implementing the Sunnah of His final messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. ameen

With love for the sake of Allah

 

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